Fortunately, as an adult I learned how to be assertive. It’s helped me to be happier.
As a young mom, I learned in a class on Parent Effectiveness Training how to communicate more positively. Rather than ranting at people in arguments, we were shown how to send “I” messages. When someone is upset and wants to argue, rather than getting into a cycle of yelling, you can say something like, “I get upset when people yell at me,” then try to talk about the problem without arguing.